Teddy Roosevelt once said that “comparison is the thief of joy”… I would go one further though and say that missed expectations are right up there as happiness thieves as well, but I’ll come back to those later…
The interesting thing about comparison and expectations is that we do both to ourselves (with our thoughts), which means we can choose to do better.
One of my favorite things about coaching a person through his/her personal fitness journey is that it is just that: personal. We all have our own goals, histories, likes, circumstances in our lives, genetics health considerations etc.
All of these factors impact the journey- so with that being the case why would we ever compare ourselves to others? It doesn’t make sense to compare.
But we do it, right?
No good comes of it.
I’m intensely proud of all of you and our clients here at MPower Fitness. (Not that what I think matters- the only thing that truly matters is how you feel about your own results/journey.)
You’re accomplishments are remarkable and your commitment to being healthier and better versions of yourselves is what drives us to do what we do.
I firmly believe that most everyone sees numbers that align with their expectations and desired outcomes, but every now and then this isn’t so.
It is a sad time for us coaches when we meet with a client who looks great, feels great, has had others notice how much fitter she/he is looking but then the numbers don’t show as “big of a difference” or as “dramatic a change” and then the disappointment sets in.
It is a bit bananas how much a person can let those numbers impact her/him.
But we do let the numbers get us down…because we see that “so and so lost 15 lbs in one month” or “such and such is down 10.5 inches”…and comparison sets in.
You have your life. I have mine. She/he has hers/his.
And if YOU are feeling better, have more energy, are looking more like how you want to look then who gives a toot what the numbers say? **The exception being if your body fat is in a dangerous place and you need to get it down for health reasons**
It is your life and YOU need to decide the pace at which you want to go and how great you’re going to feel while you do it.
I’m not sure about you, but I’m going to do my thing the very best that I can and then continue to work on letting go of comparison. And when I go to bed at night I’m going to sleep well knowing that I gave the very best I could to be a better version of myself: fitter, healthier, kinder, more generous, more productive etc. Then I’m going to (work on) let(ting) go of whatever anyone else is doing because it is none of my business and her journey is hers.
Are you with me? Will you too, just do the very best you can and then be satisfied with the result?
We’re committed to your success- and the joy of the journey,
Megan K and the team