I hope everyone had a fabulous weekend.
This weekend my dear friend and former Canadian National Snowboarder- Charmaine Ironside- was presenting and sharing her story at a fitness conference.
She talked a lot about her struggles with her inner voice.
Not unlike me, and sadly (I think) many of you, her inner voice was overly critical, disrespectful and at times just plain mean.
Maybe you can relate?
She said that one of the things that changed her life was an committed effort to stop saying nasty and unhelpful things to herself.
Recently I began this for myself. While it is a work in progress, like any new habit, it helping. I had no idea what an a**hole my inner voice sometimes was- especially to me.
Recently another speaker also said that all of us will have times when we are genuinely displeased with our behavior and when we simply do not handle the situation we are in with as much tact, grace or composure as we might have liked. I thought good gracious, did he see me yesterday? Was this talk for me? But he went on to say, if we are “always handling everything with excellent composure then perhaps we aren’t really challenging ourselves because nobody who is truly pushing himself will always behave impeccably”. Take home message- you’re going to stuff things up. You’re going to be a jerk sometimes. Apologize. Make amends. Own it but STOP beating yourself up.
If you are willing, spend this next few days noticing anytime you say anything mean or self defeating to yourself.
If/ When you catch yourself say “cancel” internally and immediately replace it with kinder words. If you have a daughter or son, replace it with what you would say to her or him or someone else you love.
I promise you, catching yourself and replacing those unhelpful words will make a massive difference in your happiness, your courage and willingness to try new things and your overall success.
Committed to your success,
Megan K and the team